Be consistent in your words and actions. For example, a phone call interupts your dinner and you say, "Tell them I'm not home yet." The message your children hear is that it's okay to be dishonest for your own convenience.

Demonstrate your respect for your children's lives and show concern by being a good listener. Be sincere, ask questions, and use an embrace or a positive look for encouragement.

Be cautious in using prescription or over-the-counter medicines as a quick fix for pain or stress. Your example can help counter the media messages that discomfort can be cured by chemicals.

Be aware of how your own use of alcohol can influence children. Your children will notice how much you drink and why. Avoid using excuses for drinking, like having a rough day. Your philosophy about drinking tends to be the drinking behavior your children will have when they grow up.

Talk honestly about stress and conflict in your own life, to the extent that it is age appropriate. Children need to know that such struggles are a normal part of life. They have a good model when they see that you are coping with problems without relying on alcohol and other drugs. If you are trying to change something in your behavior - such as quitting smoking or losing weight - be willing to talk about what works and what doesn't.

Show that spending time with your children is something you value and look forward to. If you are too tired or too busy, they're likely to imitate your behavior. Accept the role of parent as your responsibility - let someone else be their friend.

Make parenting a priority. Be there! Remember that teenagers need parental supervision as much as toddlers do. It's just a different kind. Know that your children are never too big for a hug, even when they are grown.